1. Acknowledge: The first step is to recognize that you have not forgiven yourself . Face up to this fact, and begin to deal with the issue.
2.Repent: Tell the Lord that you realize that your self-condemnation is a sin. Then accept and thank him for his forgiveness.
3. Beleive God: Reaffirm your trust in the truth of scripture. God says he has removed your transgressions as far as the east is from the west.
4. Choose forgiveness : Based on God's word, by an act of your will, in faith, choose to forgive yourself.